1 week in. What have I learned?
When it finally hit home that we would have the responsibility for a little person I had an internal mini meltdown. I felt a real pang of responsibility as we walked out of the hospital for the first time. We were leaving the professionals behind. These were the people that helped us through the first couple of days. The same people than answered all of my stupid questions and now we were starting the next leg of our journey and we were on our own.
Well... I say we were on our own. We had already been visited by Linda (Mother Vickers), Chinese Dave (Char's Dad), Kim (my sister), Lissa (my mum), Char's sister Lauren, Brother in Law Ben (Gas engineer covering Lincolnshire ;-)), and our good friends Oli and Sara. These people will no without a doubt be a great frame of support moving forwards.
Our first weekend (day 3 and 4) were when Char's hormones were due to start playing tricks so we took the opportunity of filling our time with even more friends and family. My Dad and Karen popped down to spend time with us, my sister came over again and more friends decended on our house to get Harry cuddles.
As yet I haven't described what i've learnt.. When he was born, I didn't know how to hold him, feed him, change his nappy, what cries meant or anything. For expectant dads here is some advice I would give you. Don't beat yourself up - you don't know what to expect and if others can do this then so can you...
I now realise that there are essentially 4 types of cries:
- Dirty/wet nappy
- Needs a cuddle
If you get into a cycle of looking for these signs you can't go too far wrong.
A week in, Harry is sleeping, feeding every 2.5-3 hours (anywhere between 1ounce to 2 ounces) and needs a new nappy 10-20 times a day. The funniest bits have been the nappy changes where you get him into a fresh nappy and he pee's in it straight away...
We love seeing it when he trumps because it gives us a glimpse of what a smile will look like.
He's home now and we're trying to get into a routine. There are a few things that Lauren and Ben have given us that have and will be essential to making life easier. A prep machine and a steriliser. These two things make life so much easier. 🙂
Stay tuned for more information.
P.S we're not giving him a dummy!